I needed some place to be open and clear about our goals, intentions, and vision for The Tandem Revolution. So here it is!
I’m Lizzy Davis. I’m a mom of the two cutest kids. Henry is 2 and Annie is 1. They are 16 months a part and the best miracles of our life. My hands are as full as everyone imagines, and I love every second. It took us a while to get them here, which increases my gratitude for them in my life every single day.
I’m married to best friend. Ryan shares all my dreams, knows me better than I know myself, and makes me laugh every day. We have been sharing family related articles, thoughts, and ideas with each other since we met. It’s about time we got it organized and written down! And we’ve had a lot of fun sharing this hobby together. We’ve learned a lot, talked a ton, and have watched far less tv than at any other point in our marriage. It’s been a wonderful journey and has only increased our love and appreciation for each other.
Family Life Education
I got my degree in Marriage and Family Studies a few years ago with a focus on Family Life Education. Family Life Education – which is the purpose of our blog – isn’t something that is well known. Many people who graduate with my degree go on to be counselors or social workers.
But I was drawn much more to the ‘preventative’ side of things. This became especially true once Ryan started handling divorces. I loved the idea of couples avoiding divorce by changing their marriage before they even knew they needed help. There are so many simple but significant ways to improve a marriage, restore joy to parenting, and make a happier home. And it doesn’t only have to be when the problems start. Approaching family life with this perspective has become our focus.
If you want more information on Family Life Education, head over to their website. The definition given by the National Council on Family Relations is, “the practice of equipping and empowering family members to develop knowledge and skills that enhance well-being and strengthen interpersonal relationships through an educational, preventative, and strengths-based approach.”
So this is our goal: to educate. We want to show what works for families in real time. Some ways we can all improve include having love at the core of every family relationship, teaching our children deliberately and productively, budgeting and saving money as a family, keeping our home more organized, and spending time together as a family more constructively. If we know of anything that will help our family or yours to become better and to be more happy, we’ll share it.
Why I Started a Blog
I started a blog in the first place because there are some topics that I could talk about all day, every day. And those topics usually revolve around the family. Parenting. Motherhood. Living our best lives. Becoming our best selves by following the example of Jesus Christ. I have a lot of passion on these topics built up in my brain. Ryan is no different.
I always knew that Family Life Education in some form was something that I wanted to pursue, but I had no intention of starting it for several years. However, with extra hours during naptime and a husband busy in the evenings, I needed something to do. I wanted to be productive, but by that time of day I wasn’t in the mood to cook, clean, or organize. This was a natural fallback.
And so I started designing the blog, learning, and writing. I got Ryan to join, because I love his perspective, insight, and knowledge. I also needed someone to share it with. We’ve never had more fun or felt so close than these past few months putting it all together.
Why I Blog About Home and Family
I have always been passionate about the home and family. My dream for my entire life has always been to be a wife, mother, and homemaker. I have always been 100% determined to be the best mother I could. I am obsessed with the work that a good mother provides in her home. I believe that all great people came from a home with a rockstar mom. I hope to be that kind of mom.
So I found my dream guy, and was on the first step of the journey of my dream life. The moment I got married I was thrown into a world that I couldn’t wait to thrive in.
I just knew that I would suddenly love to cook, bake, and clean. And I felt sure that I wouldn’t have any questions about keeping a budget, grocery shopping on a student’s salary, and planning for creative date nights to keep us close.
I was shocked, and a little embarrassed, to find out I wasn’t actually all that good at this whole “homemaking thing.” I wasn’t naturally a clean freak, my spontaneous nature hated schedules, and getting dinner on the table didn’t feel all that fun after the first few weeks.
A passion and love for family life came easily, and I was excited to be living it. But what didn’t come so naturally was the day to day grind that makes it all possible.
Frazzled, but still passionate, I began to create a routine that would allow me to meet all the needs, learn what to let go, and enjoy my dream life. And as I built a better life I just kept thinking, “I wish I had known all this before, it doesn’t have to be so hard!” I promised to share whatever worked with anyone needing encouragement or direction.
What’s the Real Goal?
What really drives me in family life is the end result. This is something I could talk about all of the time. The end result for me, and what is a major part of my faith, is an eternal family. I want to, and believe that I will, have a marriage that lasts after death. I want children who are connected to me for all time, and who want to be a part of that. I want all of my loved ones to grow and progress and become all that we can.
And our philosophy, and what is behind the name of the blog, is that it all happens together. I’m not so concerned about our immediate successes or our current status in any social circle. I am concerned about becoming better through our whole lives and forever.
This happens together – in tandem with God and with each other. And it all starts in the home.
Here’s Our Process
Our process is the key to our approach, and is divided into 5 main categories. Love, Guide, Simplify, Live, Eat.
Love: Between husband and wife, and between parents and children. Make love the heart of your home and the “why” behind all you do.
Guide: With love as the foundation, the way we teach our children becomes natural and effective as we guide them through various stages of life. Draw your children close and hold them tight as you gently teach them all they need to know.
Simplify: Some parts of home life aren’t as fun – like cleaning, organizing, planning, or paying the bills. But, when we manage our homes effectively, we find greater joy in the rest of the moments together. Find ways to simplify your to-do list and spend more time living the way you want.
Live: Life was meant to be lived, and these moments are what families are for. From getting out and seeing the world, or just exploring your own city, we hope to take the stress and confusion away so that you can focus on the fun of being together and making memories. Stay deliberate, but make and take time to relax and enjoy the world around you.
Eat: So much of family life is centered around food, whether it’s family dinner, a family picnic, holidays, or learning healthy habits. Make memories at mealtimes and elevate eating from task to tradition.
Join the Revolution!
As we place our priorities in their right places, and as we determine our purpose behind all that we do, the rest falls into place. This blog is simply a way for us to share our journey, our learnings, and our passion to make the family, once again, the central unit to society. Because when families are stronger, everything is stronger.
So, for all those out there with a dream for your home and family, but with questions about how to make it all happen, hop on our proverbial tandem bike. Join our revolution to figure out how simple solutions can lead to a happier family and a better end result. Join us as we search for and share solutions that help you to intentionally create the family life you always imagined so that you can all get out and live the life you always dreamed.